Mum Severe Anxiety / Depression +++

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member

Feel for you at such a vulnerable time.

stay safe...any sign of aggression or abuse  .ring the police for help..

hopefully it won't come to that..you know them better than anyone..

make the call to lifeline to ground yourself...reassurance from a voice..

please look after you..

your dad knows how much you love him and how much you have done for him and your mum....

[Owlunar]

Aw @Former-Member - I really care - I care so much - this is really toxic and there is something horrible and grasping about your sister - 

I feel it - I so do - 

But there is nothing so bad - not even this - to think about suicide - you know that - I guess this is a safety valve right now - and this is so toxic - I had enough stuff with my sister - this is different and probably worse - and your Dad - your poor Dad - he has dementia sure but he is still there and still is the owner of the household and what your sister is doing is totally wrong and I can't say any more about that 

But for you - I know you are the better person here and your brother and sister are grasping and terrible - I don't understand people like that

Please care for yourself - if you had started funeral arrangements one would think that you would be able to continue with the plans but apparently not -

You have gone into your mother's over-whelming chaos ands toxicity a number of times and done your best with her pathology to straighten things and pay bills and clean up - making sure your Dad had better food etc - and this doesn't go away - God knows all about it

But what can you do now - caring for your Dad is important and I hope you can keep doing that - you are really in over your head right now - it's so hard for you

I am thinking of your Lapses - you are in a truy hard place right now and the thing is that your mother has just died and all of this is happening around you

My prayers and my love and all I can think of that is good is being sent to you - I care so much about you

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

💜💐 @Former-Member .......

[Former-Member]

thank you all, its so nice to findvm your grwar ips and suppot. but fallng asleep here &again, faceb

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member

I rang my mum today she is in a nursing home...knows that it is a good place..needs 24/7hrs assistance but finds it all too busy..too noisy..

she will be 92 in June..

her friend who lived in room next door same age died this morning..mum said it was what her friend wanted..so we had s very long time chatting about life death beliefs etc...

she notices her missing at the dining room table..they will have a memorial service there as well

 Xxlet your feelings flow and keep safe

[Former-Member]

not easy days

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Former-Member ..... 💐💕

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member

[Former-Member]

beautiful, thank you
my image in the mirror shows the strain on my face but somehow I'm managing through the odd tears breakthrough and external upsets. I put a lock on my bedroom which has given me a space where they can't help themselvess & i can sleep, which helps reduce anxiety & given me a little control (the verbally abusive brother secretly copied the keys to house on the one time he took dad out). I've stopped telling them things because they just tell me "you're:
being paranoid
overreacting
not coping
having breakdown
insecure
...
but had a sane convo with my aunty this morning (mum's sister) who says I'm doing a great job. And my son rang - he's offered to do the Eulogy at my sister's request (nobody else will / can do it), I'm so proud of him. Took dad out for a day with my cousin (his side, a retired nurse), while i sorted outcsome legals etc. My agro Bro3 has backed off sibce cops had talk to him. Dad & I slept really well last night for a change (thank you God), Wrapibg stuff mum asked me to give people and prepping fkiwers she wanted by tge door for people to pick up.

Oh, there's the phone again

[Faith-and-Hope]

Listening @Former-Member .....

Great pro-active actions you’re taking there ...... good self-care choices I can see ..... keep swimming ....❣️

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