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  • Author : Adge
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  • Topic : Our stories
26 May 2017 11:01 AM
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Thanks so much @Former-Member

I forgot to say that I'm happy for people to write or share their experiences of grief & healing on this thread.

It was so hard to put the words together to express what I wrote in this first post.

Many of the experiences that I mentioned (including loss of health) are types of grief or things to mourn & adjust to - although they are not often recognised (or seen) as grief & loss.

My father had become the person who I was closest to, & had the most contact with - even though that contact was nearly always by telephone conversation, because he lived in a different city.

He was the one person who flew over from the east coast to stay with me for support, when I was seriously ill (twice) after both hospitalisations for emergency bowel surgery.

He was seriously ill himself, & barely mobile (not easily able to walk) - yet he was the one who came over, when more able-bodied relatives did (or could) not.

The second time that Dad flew over (after my last surgery), was the last time that I saw him before he died.

I'm sorry to hear about your son's diagnosis, that sounds so hard for you.

Yes self-forgiveness, you are right. So important. We forgive others often, yet are not so sure to forgive ourselves (even years later).

I appreciate your thoughts.

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